I'm sure you know the saying, "Must be present to win." To most of us, it means that if we want to win that raffle item, we'd better stick around until the end of the day. But lately, I've had another perspective on this common phrase - that we as handlers must be in the present moment in...
We seem so afraid of being labeled selfish that we have forgotten how to put ourselves first when we need to.
Before Westminster, I worked with a few clients (agility and conformation) who each - in their own way - were having trouble putting themselves first when it came to preparing...
Sometimes, we're not upset for the reason we think we are. I've had several coaching clients lately who can tell they're getting more upset than usual, but they can't quite figure out why.
From what I see, meltdowns are rarely about the last thing that happened to send you over the...
Last week, I didn't send a newsletter (did you miss me?), and as a result, I beat myself up. I enjoy writing to you weekly, just as I enjoy recording my podcasts, yet missing one week had me feeling guilty.
It was easy to tell myself it was no big deal in the scheme of things,...
You might be surprised, but no matter how important a particular goal is, you won't always be motivated to go after it. Most of the time, you won't be motivated at all.
No, I'm not trying to depress you. Motivation is an emotion, and relying on a feeling to achieve your goals...
I'm going back and re-watching all three seasons of Ted Lasso. (We can discuss my denial that the show ended some other time - haha!) Any-who ... One of the (many) great concepts from the show is Ted's insistence that we should all "be a goldfish."
Ted (an American coaching football,...
Lately, several of my 1:1 coaching calls have been about "big moments." Big moments or big events tend to come with a LOT of emotional baggage and added pressure. Examples include sitting at 19 (IYKYK), national events and specialties, the first trial after a long rehab, and even the most...
Ever had a tough time getting over something that happened in the ring (or even at a trial)? Silly question, of course you have.
The thing is, we've all had issues letting go of mistakes, bad runs, or some other letdown. And one reason some mistakes feel stickier than others is that we really...
Anyone else glued to the Olympics?
As a kid, time stopped for the two weeks of the spectacle, and I watched whatever they showed on network TV, paying particular attention to the equestrian events (obvi!). I remember where I was when we heard “the team” won in ‘84, and I know...
I’ve been considering the concept of pressure a lot lately - mostly because I am finishing up a Masterclass offering on the subject and using the Q-Members as my test subjects - lucky them!
I think what’s interesting about pressure is that it’s not a skill per se, but something...
As more of us are emerging post-pandemic, we are finding a new test for our resilience. I hear so many people saying, “When things go back to normal.” I gotta admit, that sentence is KILLING me! (metaphorically, obvi).
Here’s my breakdown of that sentence:
When - waiting on the...
Proximity being what it is, I have many friends who are headed off to Westminster this month. Unlike previous years, this time, it will take place in a pastoral setting (think natural grass) away from the hustle and bustle of the city and cement. I am performing all the good-weather rituals for...
