Navigating the comparison trap in dog sports comparison Feb 04, 2025

We've all been there. You see another handler's flawless run, a dog earning their championship title, or someone making success look effortless, and suddenly, you feel... behind. Like you're not doing enough. Like maybe you and your dog don't measure up.

Comparison is a trap. And in dog sports, whe...

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When comparison becomes our measuring stick. comparison goals May 28, 2024

When I talk to handlers, comparison often comes up in some form or another - which is why I talk about it as much as I do, I suppose. This weekend, while giving a seminar, another possible cause of comparison surfaced: We look to others when we don't have a good way of measuring our own progress.

A...

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Are you celebrating the right things? comparison goals Oct 24, 2023

My social media post for today was "Don't forget to sing when you win." It's a line from the opening song in the show "Welcome to Wrexham."* 

 

I LOVE this reminder. At some point, nearly every coaching call includes interrupting my clients to celebrate something they just told me. In their mind, ...

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Can you let comparison push you? comparison goals Jul 26, 2023

Lately, the comparison gremlins have been popping up in interesting - and annoying - ways. Sometimes they tell me I'm not succeeding at work; other times, I should be doing more with my dogs. Just yesterday, Facebook suggested a friend because of mutual connections, and I thought, "What would that p...

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Can jealousy inspire you? comparison goals Mar 14, 2023

This week as many of my friends head west to Tulsa for the agility National, I can't help but feel a bit jealous. Mind you, I didn't try to qualify, I just wish I were going - haha.

Watching someone else achieve something you also want can trigger all sorts of feelings. Are you wildly happy for you...

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